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Three Reasons Why Compulsive Control Takes a Toll

Practicing compulsive control will manifest the three things you were hoping to avoid, precisely by utilizing excessive control: neverending chaos, overwork, low profitability...it dominoes into a series of problems that you don't want in order to live a successful and relatively stress-free life.

As Mario Andretti, the Formula One world champion once said, “If everything's under control, you're going too slow.”

This applies to anything and everything in life, your relationships, your financial security, your business, etc. If everything is smooth sailing and organized, then you might find that you are not really "growing." There is no way to achieve personal or professional growth and, yet, be in complete control. That might happen in some fantasy world or in another dimension, but it does not happen in this world. You have to eventually leave the nest of your comfort zone to discover new horizons.

Say you are a busy dental practitioner. Every time you hire a new employee for your practice, take on a new patient, sell a new procedure or service, enter a new market or start a new dental marketing program, things get a bit disorderly in the beginning. If all you want is to be always in complete control and have things in perfect order, you have sentenced yourself to a chaotic existence.

There probably is no a single successful man or women who will not tell you that without risk you will not arrive where you want to go.

Risk, just like a lot of money, pain, and other such words can and are defined differently by different people. What is barely an excitement to some is unbearable risk to others. As a business consultant, I have met many people, particularly those in the medical field, who are flat-out afraid to take risks by using medical or dental advertising to increase their practices. They fear that by using advertising and marketing plans, they are compromising their credibility to their patients as well as the community. So, those doctors and dentists who opt out of taking such a risk find that their client bases eventually shrink due to external factors. Before they know it, they are fighting just to keep their practices open for business.
This does not have to be making millions and millions, but applies to tasks such as having a happy marriage, raise children the way you intend and make the living you would like with some time to enjoy it.
It all takes some guts and some plan to carry it out and nobody is in full control al the time on any of those subjects. One of my rules of thumb is this, if I do something and it would go totally wrong could I survive it? Am I willing to lose a battle to win the war?

Yes. The answer is yes. You can survive it if you are willing to backpedal, willing to be a failure. I'm not saying it's going to be a whole mess of fun, but you can and will survive taking a risk. Remember, there's always the opposite to failure: success.

But the question remains: do I want to be a prisoner of comfort and be the biggest failure of all or do I want to go where I have not been before? Most people do want to go there too, but fear of losing what they already have. For the compulsive desire of remaining comfortable, they simply stay where they are.

It is a shame because it has been said so often by so many who traveled to the other side that the trip was what made it all worthwhile. Those people did not lie. The trip of not being quite in control because you tried something new, is what keeps you energetic and excited about life.

HELMUT G. FLASCH
Dental Practice Management Specialist, Doctor Relations, Inc.

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